You Can’t Remember the Most Important Thing About Yourself

I’m not talking about your first kiss, where you grew up, or who your best friend is.

Those memories matter, but they aren’t what make you who you are. They’re simply things that happened.

I’m talking about the experiences you can’t remember, the ones your mind buried because they were too painful, overwhelming, or difficult to process.

Most people never realize those memories are missing.

What no one teaches you is this: forgetting an experience doesn’t erase its influence. Instead it gets buried in your body, showing itself is subtle ways that are easy to dismiss. Most people don’t even look for ways to “improve their game” until their energy dives, their thoughts go dark, and they have weird ailments they “never used to have”.

The things you can’t remember often have the greatest impact on your health and therefore, your life.

They quietly shape your decisions, relationships, fears, and habits…guiding you back to the same patterns, just wearing different disguises.

Almost no childhood is perfect. I’m not condemning your parents. I believe almost everyone is doing their best at any given moment, and have never been taught the skills to succeed at parenting, or relationships.

Some of us are chipped. Some of us are cracked.

Often, those imperfections become part of our strength and character.

But when the damage runs deep enough, the broken pieces don’t just hurt us—they can wound the people around us as well.

That’s why healing isn’t about remembering everything.

It’s about reclaiming control from the parts of your story that have been driving your life from the shadows….subconsciously.

We find ourselves having the same argument, the same boss, the same issue with our health, with no direction in how to solve it. We tend to quietly project our own issues onto other people, yet we keep choosing the same path over and over.

The way off this treadmill is to stop, change direction, and take honest stock in what we are doing to perpetuate the pattern. That’s hard to do when those patterns exist in a blindspot.

The clients I see that succeed the most ask for help, and then ruthlessly apply the changes, with defenses down to the process. This is also when they see their physical health start to turn around. It’s physical evidence of the mental changes taking place. No supplement can do that.

The mind and body are in an infinite feedback loop with one another, they’re not separate one bit, which is why I always seek to decipher whether it’s biology or psychology that’s the easiest place to intervene.

If any of this makes sense to you, and you’ve found yourself in such a place, feel free to reach out. Maybe I can help 🙂 

Talk soon,

Alli 💋